I've mentioned before that I have only been out once this year, for a show and dinner on Valentine's Day. I have a few reasons why: weather, health, opportunity, others.
A couple of weekends ago, there was a scheduled game day which was cancelled due to snow, so Meg stayed home.
This past weekend, for instance, I was supposed to be out of town with my son and I'd be back too late for the Saturday soiree. Going away was postponed for a couple of weeks but I had a lot of things to do around the house and not enough time to get ready. Plus Charity had to work late and wouldn't have been available to help me get ready.
See? There are lots of reasons. But I'm pretty sure there's really just one reason and I'm pretty sure it's none of those.
I don't know what it is though. I'm working on it. And I will be out again, in the near future.
Showing posts with label crossdress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label crossdress. Show all posts
Monday, March 9, 2015
Thursday, June 26, 2014
Endpoint Redux: Really?
Do we really know what our (gender) endpoint or goal is? We're all thinking humans who respond to how we feel as well as to how society feels about us and what we do.
I think society's view of women who have transitioned has evolved in the direction of acceptance partly because there's been more exposure to more new women. I don't mean to imply that they've been embraced; I am encouraged that society is headed in that direction.
Perhaps more of us would gravitate from a chosen endpoint to a new one, if society was more accepting of one of those endpoints.
If the people around us didn't care how we dressed or accessorised, perhaps more of us would glide towards gender fluid. Perhaps the shifting attitude towards post-op women will nudge the occasional crossdresser towards full-time.
My goal is to be where I am ~ occasional crossdresser. It has been for quite a while. That covers a lot of ground though ~ there are things I might consider, some permanent, some not so much. And who knows what I'll think in, say six years? Will my foresight be confirmed with 20-20 hindsight in the year 2020?
I'll let y'all know.
I think society's view of women who have transitioned has evolved in the direction of acceptance partly because there's been more exposure to more new women. I don't mean to imply that they've been embraced; I am encouraged that society is headed in that direction.
Perhaps more of us would gravitate from a chosen endpoint to a new one, if society was more accepting of one of those endpoints.
If the people around us didn't care how we dressed or accessorised, perhaps more of us would glide towards gender fluid. Perhaps the shifting attitude towards post-op women will nudge the occasional crossdresser towards full-time.
My goal is to be where I am ~ occasional crossdresser. It has been for quite a while. That covers a lot of ground though ~ there are things I might consider, some permanent, some not so much. And who knows what I'll think in, say six years? Will my foresight be confirmed with 20-20 hindsight in the year 2020?
I'll let y'all know.
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Who Was at the Game Night
During the evening, our host came over with his iPad and said "are there any Dr Who fans here?" Charity and I both admitted to being such and he showed us two pictures of the eleven actors who played the doctor.
First, there was this picture of them in their "Dr Who" guise:
And then there was this picture of them in other roles:
He said that he didn't know who they were portraying, commented specifically on #3 (I forget who he thought he was portraying; maybe Worzel Gummidge) and mentioned that "two were crossdressed." I did not say "good for them" or "all the smart guys do it" and he hadn't said it with anything other than a conversational tone.
The host is one of the guys who joined in the Cards Against Humanity later that evening.
Just sayin'.
First, there was this picture of them in their "Dr Who" guise:
And then there was this picture of them in other roles:
He said that he didn't know who they were portraying, commented specifically on #3 (I forget who he thought he was portraying; maybe Worzel Gummidge) and mentioned that "two were crossdressed." I did not say "good for them" or "all the smart guys do it" and he hadn't said it with anything other than a conversational tone.
The host is one of the guys who joined in the Cards Against Humanity later that evening.
Just sayin'.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Forced Crossdressing
I found a few stories about Tommy Tucker, who was not only forced to wear dresses and such almost all of his life, but he was taken on tours and shown off in his finest outfits ~ in an effort to sell war bonds.
Here's an article from Life magazine from the 1940s.
The story recently caught the eye of the Washington Post and John Kelly wrote about him here and here.
While I'm being a tad offbeat here, does anyone know what television series featured a male playing the female lead? The audience was never told that the lead was, in fact, male. Hint: the series ran for 19 years.
Send a comment with your guess. (update: as of 9am EDT there are two correct answers. I'll post all tonight) (update to update: comments posted ~ you all [and one e-mail response] got it right. I found this out as a Trivial Pursuit answer many years ago)
Here's an article from Life magazine from the 1940s.
The story recently caught the eye of the Washington Post and John Kelly wrote about him here and here.
While I'm being a tad offbeat here, does anyone know what television series featured a male playing the female lead? The audience was never told that the lead was, in fact, male. Hint: the series ran for 19 years.
Send a comment with your guess. (update: as of 9am EDT there are two correct answers. I'll post all tonight) (update to update: comments posted ~ you all [and one e-mail response] got it right. I found this out as a Trivial Pursuit answer many years ago)
Friday, March 2, 2012
When You're a Huh?
While thinking about MTV, I remembered that there was a great David Bowie video for Boys Keep Swinging. At least, I thought it was great. It seemed like every time I turned it on I only caught the last few seconds and was never quite sure what I was seeing. I finally thought to look for it on YouTube and, of course, it was there.
And now it's here, for your enjoyment. And here, if the embed doesn't work right.
And now it's here, for your enjoyment. And here, if the embed doesn't work right.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
My New Schedule
I seem to have settled on weekend comics and freeform weekdays. Comics get pre-empted if something interesting is going on.
Well, something interesting is going on, but I'd like to confine it to Thursday.
As I mentioned a couple of weeks ago, my wife has opened a tentative dialogue about Meg. She also offered the possibility of seeing a therapist to discuss her, among other things. I worry that the "other things" will overshadow what I need to talk about, but time will tell.
One of my readers mentioned a local couples therapist who is an active part of the community and has an accepting partner. I haven't mentioned him to my wife; I think she'd feel I was stacking the deck and be turned off by the idea. I may mention him in the future. I say he because that's how he presents as a therapist.
In the meantime, my wife spoke to some of her therapist friends and found someone they all recommended. Our first appointment is next Tuesday, and that's why I'd like to write about it on Thursday. Tuesday night might be taken up with a "couples recap." I'm not sure what form that will take, but knowing my wife she will not stop talking when the hour is up. So Wednesday night would be a good time to write, and I can give a progress report on Thursday.
I think what's going on between my wife and myself and my other self might be commonplace, and it might help others who are at the same stage in their relationships. I'd love to hear from readers who have been here, and what happened, and how it turned out.
One of my issues that's bubbling to the surface is, I am just tired of hiding. I don't know how this will be resolved. I suspect the only way forward is to continue hiding.
Already, my wife is in her "anxiety mode," which manifests itself in random arguments. She doesn't recognise it but I sure do.
And it's something else to talk about.
Well, something interesting is going on, but I'd like to confine it to Thursday.
As I mentioned a couple of weeks ago, my wife has opened a tentative dialogue about Meg. She also offered the possibility of seeing a therapist to discuss her, among other things. I worry that the "other things" will overshadow what I need to talk about, but time will tell.
One of my readers mentioned a local couples therapist who is an active part of the community and has an accepting partner. I haven't mentioned him to my wife; I think she'd feel I was stacking the deck and be turned off by the idea. I may mention him in the future. I say he because that's how he presents as a therapist.
In the meantime, my wife spoke to some of her therapist friends and found someone they all recommended. Our first appointment is next Tuesday, and that's why I'd like to write about it on Thursday. Tuesday night might be taken up with a "couples recap." I'm not sure what form that will take, but knowing my wife she will not stop talking when the hour is up. So Wednesday night would be a good time to write, and I can give a progress report on Thursday.
I think what's going on between my wife and myself and my other self might be commonplace, and it might help others who are at the same stage in their relationships. I'd love to hear from readers who have been here, and what happened, and how it turned out.
One of my issues that's bubbling to the surface is, I am just tired of hiding. I don't know how this will be resolved. I suspect the only way forward is to continue hiding.
Already, my wife is in her "anxiety mode," which manifests itself in random arguments. She doesn't recognise it but I sure do.
And it's something else to talk about.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Mum's the Word
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| Meg (in my dreams) |
My current flannel shirt is a black-and-white gingham, similar to the one here. I picked mine up on freecycle.
My wife pulled out a catalogue with the same shirt and said "look! If I get this we can dress alike."
My college son was there, and he said "dad's wearing a girl's shirt." I said nothing.
But if he took a little look he'd see that the buttons were on the wrong side, and there was a dart for a bust I didn't have (at least at the moment).
I guess critical observation is not a skill they teach at college.
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Future Crossdresser Here
I know I wanted to wear girl's clothes. And I was always a very logical kid. So it was simple:
1. I wanted to wear dresses and have long hair and wear pretty shoes.
2. Only girls wear dresses and have long hair and wear pretty shoes.
3. Therefore, I must want to be a girl.
The idea that a boy would want to wear girls' clothes was, well, nuts. When I was old enough to think about it, I thought that someday I might see a psychiatrist (I don't know where I learned about them ~ maybe Peanuts) and I would never be able to tell him I wanted to wear girls' clothes because that would be so weird he'd probably want to put me away.
I remember little about my childhood, which to a therapist would be a red flag. It would indicate some serious childhood trauma. Maybe it does. I don't remember.
One snippet I do remember was going to the barber with my father (I didn't do a lot of things with my father) and when the barber was done, I innocently asked, "isn't the hair in the front supposed to be straight?" Both my father and the barber laughed and one of them (I don't remember which) said "bangs are for girls. Do you want to look like a girl?" I remember being very embarrassed (although I don't think that qualifies as trauma).
And at some point, I probably wondered why I don't get to wear a top to my bathing suit, like my sister does.
No doubt. He's one of us.
(Please take the polls. An explanation is here.)
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Decisions, Decisions
Pat commented on "life gets in the way" that she also has problems trying to decide what to wear. I tell people (women, usually) if I was a girl, I'd be late to work every day, because I wouldn't be able to decide what to wear. "Do I wear a pants or a skirt? Skirt or a dress? Long sleeves, short sleeves, 3/4 sleeves, cap sleeves, no sleeves, puffy sleeves, flared sleeves? Which of the hundred of colours, patterns, materials? Long skirt, mid calf skirt, short skirt, oh-my-god-she's-wearing-that skirt?"
But I wonder... if Meg went out every day, I'd probably have a better feel for what to wear. I'd have some favourite outifts and some things I rarely wear but would, just to shake up the pattern. I don't think it would be a real problem, after the first week, or fifth, or maybe fourteenth.
Part of the problem is, for the occasional dresser, it's like being told you can see one Broadway show ~ you think about all of the also-rans after you choose.
Before I went to dinner with Vanessa, I tried on two different blouses, rejected one as too casual without trying it, and I tried two different (black) skirts, and one dress ~ skipping two others I had pulled out but didn't think fit the occasion.
Imagine if it was a date! I'd probably still be deciding.
But I wonder... if Meg went out every day, I'd probably have a better feel for what to wear. I'd have some favourite outifts and some things I rarely wear but would, just to shake up the pattern. I don't think it would be a real problem, after the first week, or fifth, or maybe fourteenth.
Part of the problem is, for the occasional dresser, it's like being told you can see one Broadway show ~ you think about all of the also-rans after you choose.
Before I went to dinner with Vanessa, I tried on two different blouses, rejected one as too casual without trying it, and I tried two different (black) skirts, and one dress ~ skipping two others I had pulled out but didn't think fit the occasion.
Imagine if it was a date! I'd probably still be deciding.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
That Dating Poll
The dating poll was much more straightforward than my Gender Orientation poll, but it's still not simple. The results are reposted at the end.
Before I forget, I want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer. I really appreciate it.
You could choose more than one answer, and there were 85 responses from 54 polltakers, so many of you checked more than one box. I'll be making some assumptions, so bear with me and feel free to tell me why you think I'm wrong.
The last question
10. Only girls for me.
got 20 responses. Assumption number one: these 20 only ticked one box (although it's possible they also ticked question 2). That leaves 65 answers for 34 respondents.
The first three questions go together:
1. I had a guy chat me up. He clearly wanted it to go further, and it did.
2. I had a guy chat me up. He clearly wanted it to go further, but it didn't.
3. I've had fantasies about a boy-girl date with me as the girl.
Seven people selected "fantasies," and seven actually had the experience. I was surprised that five said they had at least some boy-girl action, and only two didn't. I really find this interesting. I wonder what the circumstances were for those five. Were they in a situation where they might expect to hook up (gay bar, trans meeting with admirers present, something else?) or was it just a chance encounter, like Z in the original poll post? If it was just something that happened, did they think they'd react as they did? Was it just difficult to say no? That would be two girl experiences in one. And how about the other two? Did they say no, did the guy change his mind, was it in an inappropriate location and you had nowhere else to go?
I'm in the question 3 camp. But if a guy came on to me, I'd be in the #2 category. But sometimes, I really don't know.
The next questions are for gurls who are interested in dating. If I moved from fantasy to reality, I'd go with #4. But maybe.... Let's look at the numbers:
4. I've dated guys, but it's like going out with my brother.
5. I've dated guys, and it's like going out with my new boyfriend.
6. I've dated guys, and it's like the red light district.
7. I want to date a guy, but I haven't yet.
Maybe the distance between 4 and 5 is too far. It went from "no touching" (3 people) to "kissing or more" (16 people). Maybe the gurls who dated had dinner, saw a movie, held hands, and just had a goodnight kiss on the cheek. I could see myself there. But maybe they had a necking session. Or something more intimate. This is really a category that needs a "fill in the blank" or "tell me your story." And if anyone wants to, I'd love to hear it, either in a comment or e-mail.
Three people ticked #6. I'm guessing we've reached the gender orientation: female/sexual orientation: gay slice of the pie. I guess "drag queen" is the label (said the lady who hates labels).
Fourteen people went with #7. I wonder if their fantasy is 4, 5, or 6. Mine is 4, absolutely. I think. As I said.
The last group reversed the dating question: you're out with a t-gurl.
8. I want to date a t-gurl. I'll show her a nice time.
9. I want to date a t-gurl. I'll be on her like white on rice.
Eleven chose #8. Here, I'm sure I'd be in that category, although if she was interested, I might hold hands or offer a kiss goodnight. I do know I'd be uncomfortable treating her like a hot date. I might do it, as a role-play, I think. Or if I could convince myself it's a role-play.
If anyone wants to expound on how they answered, there are always comments (and if you write "private" at the start I won't post it) or e-mail.
The complete poll results:
Before I forget, I want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer. I really appreciate it.
You could choose more than one answer, and there were 85 responses from 54 polltakers, so many of you checked more than one box. I'll be making some assumptions, so bear with me and feel free to tell me why you think I'm wrong.
The last question
10. Only girls for me.
got 20 responses. Assumption number one: these 20 only ticked one box (although it's possible they also ticked question 2). That leaves 65 answers for 34 respondents.
The first three questions go together:
1. I had a guy chat me up. He clearly wanted it to go further, and it did.
2. I had a guy chat me up. He clearly wanted it to go further, but it didn't.
3. I've had fantasies about a boy-girl date with me as the girl.
Seven people selected "fantasies," and seven actually had the experience. I was surprised that five said they had at least some boy-girl action, and only two didn't. I really find this interesting. I wonder what the circumstances were for those five. Were they in a situation where they might expect to hook up (gay bar, trans meeting with admirers present, something else?) or was it just a chance encounter, like Z in the original poll post? If it was just something that happened, did they think they'd react as they did? Was it just difficult to say no? That would be two girl experiences in one. And how about the other two? Did they say no, did the guy change his mind, was it in an inappropriate location and you had nowhere else to go?
I'm in the question 3 camp. But if a guy came on to me, I'd be in the #2 category. But sometimes, I really don't know.
The next questions are for gurls who are interested in dating. If I moved from fantasy to reality, I'd go with #4. But maybe.... Let's look at the numbers:
4. I've dated guys, but it's like going out with my brother.
5. I've dated guys, and it's like going out with my new boyfriend.
6. I've dated guys, and it's like the red light district.
7. I want to date a guy, but I haven't yet.
Maybe the distance between 4 and 5 is too far. It went from "no touching" (3 people) to "kissing or more" (16 people). Maybe the gurls who dated had dinner, saw a movie, held hands, and just had a goodnight kiss on the cheek. I could see myself there. But maybe they had a necking session. Or something more intimate. This is really a category that needs a "fill in the blank" or "tell me your story." And if anyone wants to, I'd love to hear it, either in a comment or e-mail.
Three people ticked #6. I'm guessing we've reached the gender orientation: female/sexual orientation: gay slice of the pie. I guess "drag queen" is the label (said the lady who hates labels).
Fourteen people went with #7. I wonder if their fantasy is 4, 5, or 6. Mine is 4, absolutely. I think. As I said.
The last group reversed the dating question: you're out with a t-gurl.
8. I want to date a t-gurl. I'll show her a nice time.
9. I want to date a t-gurl. I'll be on her like white on rice.
Eleven chose #8. Here, I'm sure I'd be in that category, although if she was interested, I might hold hands or offer a kiss goodnight. I do know I'd be uncomfortable treating her like a hot date. I might do it, as a role-play, I think. Or if I could convince myself it's a role-play.
If anyone wants to expound on how they answered, there are always comments (and if you write "private" at the start I won't post it) or e-mail.
The complete poll results:
| Dating? You can check more than one answer, if appropriate | ||
|---|---|---|
| 1 | I've had an experience like Z's, including a bit of necking | 5 |
| 2 | I've had an experience like Z's, but it never went anywhere | 2 |
| 3 | I've had an epiphany like Meg's, and I'd like to try a date | 7 |
| 4 | I've been out with guys when dressed ~ no touching! | 3 |
| 5 | I've been out with guys when dressed, and kissing (or more) was involved | 16 |
| 6 | I'm a slut when dressed | 3 |
| 7 | I've always wanted to try an opposite=gender date while dressed | 14 |
| 8 | I'd go out with a t-girl when I'm in drab and treat her like a lady | 11 |
| 9 | I'd go out with a t-girl when I'm in drab and treat her like any other hot date | 4 |
| 10 | I've dated only girls in the past, and girls as far forward as I can imagine | 20 |
Sunday, August 7, 2011
It's Clothing Swap Day!
And I am not prepared! I still don't know what I'm going to wear. I don't know when my wife and son are going to leave.
Last week, I carefully planned my hours so I could take off early on Thursday and shop a bit before heading home. I was going to look in a department I've never looked in before ~ activewear ~ for a comfortable top (explanation below), and of course for a new dress. (No luck though. I'll write about shopping soon.) Friday I have a set schedule: I have to leave at 2 to get to the 4-H fair and help my son. And my contract insists on 40 hours per week, no more, no less.
So of course I ended up in a meeting at leaving time on Thursday. No matter. I left earlier Friday and did my shopping first.
In my ongoing search for something to do on Tuesday, I looked to meetup. There are a lot of meetups on Tuesday in Virginia, DC, and nearby parts of Maryland. Many involve runs or walks or other exercise. Many involve dancing. A few are "ladies only" events which I'd love to crash but I don't want to make other people uncomfortable.
There were quite a few meditation meetups though, and that sounds like something Meg could do. I'm waiting to see if there are any both nearby and with a few members attending. Most just have one person attending, and I'm not comfortable with that. I still have two days though! And that's why I was looking for a comfy top ~ something that would work with a loose skirt for meditation, or maybe with sweats (I have Danskins that I bought for around-the-house wear years ago) for yoga (there were a few yoga meetups too).
Changing plans once again, my wife decided we could go out for breakfast. That should work in my favour ~ if we get out early, then they'll be ready early and I'll have plenty of time to shower, shave, dress, buy soft drinks, and enjoy the swap.
I had a bit of trouble sleeping last night. When I'd wake up, I'd be anxious. That used to happen for about a week or more before I planned to go out. Lately it's been gone completely.
What's different? I thought about what started the adrenaline and it was Being With Other People, not the dressing part. Being an introvert is a pain.
Last week, I carefully planned my hours so I could take off early on Thursday and shop a bit before heading home. I was going to look in a department I've never looked in before ~ activewear ~ for a comfortable top (explanation below), and of course for a new dress. (No luck though. I'll write about shopping soon.) Friday I have a set schedule: I have to leave at 2 to get to the 4-H fair and help my son. And my contract insists on 40 hours per week, no more, no less.
So of course I ended up in a meeting at leaving time on Thursday. No matter. I left earlier Friday and did my shopping first.
In my ongoing search for something to do on Tuesday, I looked to meetup. There are a lot of meetups on Tuesday in Virginia, DC, and nearby parts of Maryland. Many involve runs or walks or other exercise. Many involve dancing. A few are "ladies only" events which I'd love to crash but I don't want to make other people uncomfortable.
There were quite a few meditation meetups though, and that sounds like something Meg could do. I'm waiting to see if there are any both nearby and with a few members attending. Most just have one person attending, and I'm not comfortable with that. I still have two days though! And that's why I was looking for a comfy top ~ something that would work with a loose skirt for meditation, or maybe with sweats (I have Danskins that I bought for around-the-house wear years ago) for yoga (there were a few yoga meetups too).
Changing plans once again, my wife decided we could go out for breakfast. That should work in my favour ~ if we get out early, then they'll be ready early and I'll have plenty of time to shower, shave, dress, buy soft drinks, and enjoy the swap.
I had a bit of trouble sleeping last night. When I'd wake up, I'd be anxious. That used to happen for about a week or more before I planned to go out. Lately it's been gone completely.
What's different? I thought about what started the adrenaline and it was Being With Other People, not the dressing part. Being an introvert is a pain.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
A Real Transgender Play Date!
And not quite "real."
For the first time in years, I sat down with my son and watched Spongebob Squarepants. I am including a link in case I have readers who have been in a cave on a pacific island since World War II, and just returned to civilisation.
The first episode we saw was called Love That Squid. In it, Squidward meets a lovely female squid but he hasn't had a date in years so Spongebob offers to help him, with a practice date.
You can see the full cartoon on Nickelodeon, although you'll have to sit through an ad and the show intro.
At least I know how Spongebob and Squidward would answer my dating poll!
I'm still looking for something to do on Tuesday, 9 August. If anyone has any ideas.... If not, there's always shopping.
Oh.... I extended the poll through today. Please take the poll if you haven't. Check more than one answer, as your heart tells you. Response has been light and time is running out. Read the overly long introduction which will help you understand the choices.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Happy Birthday To Me!
My blog, anyway. My personal birthday was two days ago.
On 7 June, 2010, I wrote my first post. Now it's 365 days and about 420 posts later. I haven't run out of material yet. I have a couple of guest posts waiting in the wings. I have some comments that were incredibly thoughtful and require a follow-up. I collected some weird search terms. I hope I have some future trips to write about. I think about trans issues a lot ~ I have some ideas and scribbles to share. And some cartoons.
It's been Meg's most "out" year ever. I believe I was out seven times, in six different states! Missouri, Kansas, Virginia, DC, Colorado, Texas. I'm not counting the ones I flew over.
I won't have the same options this year, but I plan to own Arizona. Or the contract will not be renewed and perhaps my old job will still be open. The Reason I Left is gone, and the company and I may have discussions in August or September. I'm also going to push for travel to trade shows at this job. We'll see.
Over 90 ladies have joined my little circle of friends. I wish we could all get together and have one huge sleepover. Maybe in the coming year. Hey, my Meg life is all wishes and dreams, isn't it?
I barely missed meeting one reader. I did meet another. I hope to meet more, in drab or dressed.
Of course, dressed is better.
On 7 June, 2010, I wrote my first post. Now it's 365 days and about 420 posts later. I haven't run out of material yet. I have a couple of guest posts waiting in the wings. I have some comments that were incredibly thoughtful and require a follow-up. I collected some weird search terms. I hope I have some future trips to write about. I think about trans issues a lot ~ I have some ideas and scribbles to share. And some cartoons.
It's been Meg's most "out" year ever. I believe I was out seven times, in six different states! Missouri, Kansas, Virginia, DC, Colorado, Texas. I'm not counting the ones I flew over.
I won't have the same options this year, but I plan to own Arizona. Or the contract will not be renewed and perhaps my old job will still be open. The Reason I Left is gone, and the company and I may have discussions in August or September. I'm also going to push for travel to trade shows at this job. We'll see.
Over 90 ladies have joined my little circle of friends. I wish we could all get together and have one huge sleepover. Maybe in the coming year. Hey, my Meg life is all wishes and dreams, isn't it?
I barely missed meeting one reader. I did meet another. I hope to meet more, in drab or dressed.
Of course, dressed is better.
Monday, June 6, 2011
I Just Realised
I'm committed to the weekend. I have NO extra clothes that are Non-Meg. And I decided to not bring a handbag this trip. Mine are black or brown. I need something summerier. I hope I can get something inexpensive in Sierra Vista!
Travel Day
I'll be home alone once the kids head off to school.
My plan:
Pack.
Make sure all of Meg's stuff is packed gently and snugly. Make sure I have enough clothes for my workdays.
All of the pants and two of the shirts I packed are women's. My only non-Meg shoes are from the women's department. All of my undies and socks, well, that's all I own. I did bring mostly solid or OK-for-male patterned socks. I will be working with military sorts after all.
My travel wardrobe is a tee, one of my new girls jeans, girl socks and undies of course and my usual necklace and charm bracelet. I am adding One More clearly girl item: Meg's watch.
As I mentioned, my plan for girl shoes for the flight will not pan out. I also looked at a pair of black loafers with a 1-3/4" heel (I measured). BUT ~ they'd probably bother my little toes, and I think I'd be uncomfortable, physically with the fit and psychologically with the style. I'll do the watch. One thing at a time. If a stranger comments on the watch and I say "my battery died so I borrowed my wife's" is that a story?
Oh.... I also almost made an error. Normally, I have A Meg Outfit. That includes a bra and a cinch and a couple of pair of hose in case one runs. This trip, I will need to pack a second bra and cinch. I don't think each will stand up to more than one day's wear. And I can't guarantee it will be dry the next day after being hand-washed in the evening.
I may need a larger suitcase.
My plan:
Pack.
Make sure all of Meg's stuff is packed gently and snugly. Make sure I have enough clothes for my workdays.
All of the pants and two of the shirts I packed are women's. My only non-Meg shoes are from the women's department. All of my undies and socks, well, that's all I own. I did bring mostly solid or OK-for-male patterned socks. I will be working with military sorts after all.
My travel wardrobe is a tee, one of my new girls jeans, girl socks and undies of course and my usual necklace and charm bracelet. I am adding One More clearly girl item: Meg's watch.
As I mentioned, my plan for girl shoes for the flight will not pan out. I also looked at a pair of black loafers with a 1-3/4" heel (I measured). BUT ~ they'd probably bother my little toes, and I think I'd be uncomfortable, physically with the fit and psychologically with the style. I'll do the watch. One thing at a time. If a stranger comments on the watch and I say "my battery died so I borrowed my wife's" is that a story?
Oh.... I also almost made an error. Normally, I have A Meg Outfit. That includes a bra and a cinch and a couple of pair of hose in case one runs. This trip, I will need to pack a second bra and cinch. I don't think each will stand up to more than one day's wear. And I can't guarantee it will be dry the next day after being hand-washed in the evening.
I may need a larger suitcase.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
More Help Needed!
First an oops: I need to shave my arms before Tuesday morning. Last night it occurred to me that my classmates and possible workmates might notice my hair-today-gone-tomorrow look. It is a short-sleeve town after all. Normally, I wouldn't care, but it's a new job and a new group of people. I think I need to make a concession or two. I shall be wearing my charm bracelet however. I will remove the women's watch.
It's now 11am. I'm home alone for about two hours. My goal: get pictures of my new tops and possible skirts; write this post; look for a pair of flats I KNOW I have. They're women's, they won't pass, but the odds I'll see someone I know are small so I might wear them. I have to find them first.
Also, get out my jewelry and makeup and ensure I have everything I need!
It's now almost 1pm and as you can see when you read on, I accomplished most of my goals. I took pictures, I found my flats (and another pair I had forgotten about!), and I went through my makeup/jewelry. I've been wearing my black earrings/necklace/bracelet the last few times I went out. I think I'll be a bit more colourful this trip, since my clothes will be more colourful as well.
If you offer opinions (and please do!) remember I need a more casual look. Friday night, I might get away with a dressier dress but not for weekend shopping and touristy things. Unless I go to church Sunday. :)))
And remember to check my morning post for more shoe options.
On to the clothes!
A good idea, but alas, no.
Are these at all passable? Not really. The straps are too thin, the heels are wrong ~ but they'd be great to go through security. Slip off, slip on.
I would have worn them, except they're size 13 (I picked them up via freecycle) and they slip right off. I'd need to pad the front or back or something.
So sneakers it shall be.
I found these hiding in the basement in a box (with the flats). I forgot about them. They are perfect if I wanted to go to a club in Arizona, but that's not one of my plans (although someone I've been chatting with says they go out once a week or so, so maybe...).
Too dressy for tourist traps. Maybe I could wear them shopping Friday night, but, well, I don't know. I'm not sure what outfit they'd go with. But they certainly wouldn't interfere with my nice new pedicure.
I bought this skirt for my Mardi Gras outing. Diagonal stripes were in then, and I thought they were really appealing. The top is new, and I'm wearing it in most of my pictures because most of the skirts have some purple in them.
If you like a top and different skirt (including the first ones I posted), let me know! Alone, I am a fashion fail waiting to happen.
If you get a close-up you can see my normal charm bracelet. I wear it everywhere.
The blouse's neckline is Just High Enough to not need a camisole.
The skirt is light and airy and feels nice but I just don't know. Here, if you zoom in you can see my usual drab necklace and bracelet. If you see someone wearing these two items, you can be pretty darn sure you've spotted Meg's alter-ego.
Another skirt I bought for Mardi Gras. This one never made it out of the closet. There's always a first time.
The salmon top I bought. I like this top. The skirt looks southwestern, I think. I tucked in the top so you could see the waistline and drawstring.
One more....
A very light, although lined, skirt. Other than the first purple one, I've never worn any of these out. They're all just too long for Meg! But I think longer is more casual and that's really the look I want, but of course I don't want to give in and go with jeans or shorts.
Voting is now open. I do my final packing at 7 tomorrow so vote early and often!
It's now 11am. I'm home alone for about two hours. My goal: get pictures of my new tops and possible skirts; write this post; look for a pair of flats I KNOW I have. They're women's, they won't pass, but the odds I'll see someone I know are small so I might wear them. I have to find them first.
Also, get out my jewelry and makeup and ensure I have everything I need!
It's now almost 1pm and as you can see when you read on, I accomplished most of my goals. I took pictures, I found my flats (and another pair I had forgotten about!), and I went through my makeup/jewelry. I've been wearing my black earrings/necklace/bracelet the last few times I went out. I think I'll be a bit more colourful this trip, since my clothes will be more colourful as well.
If you offer opinions (and please do!) remember I need a more casual look. Friday night, I might get away with a dressier dress but not for weekend shopping and touristy things. Unless I go to church Sunday. :)))
And remember to check my morning post for more shoe options.
On to the clothes!
Shoes
Are these at all passable? Not really. The straps are too thin, the heels are wrong ~ but they'd be great to go through security. Slip off, slip on.
I would have worn them, except they're size 13 (I picked them up via freecycle) and they slip right off. I'd need to pad the front or back or something.
So sneakers it shall be.
Too dressy for tourist traps. Maybe I could wear them shopping Friday night, but, well, I don't know. I'm not sure what outfit they'd go with. But they certainly wouldn't interfere with my nice new pedicure.
If you like a top and different skirt (including the first ones I posted), let me know! Alone, I am a fashion fail waiting to happen.
If you get a close-up you can see my normal charm bracelet. I wear it everywhere.
The blouse's neckline is Just High Enough to not need a camisole.
One more....
Voting is now open. I do my final packing at 7 tomorrow so vote early and often!
Help Me!
Private to Sara: write me!
As I mentioned, I bought two pairs of shoes. My kids were out briefly yesterday, so I wore each pair, plus one I had in the house, for 10-20 minutes each.
The black shoes are my old shoes. I'm not sure where or when I picked them up. They might be thrift store shoes. I've never worn them out but they fit my Arizona requirements: light and airy.
It did take me a minute or five to figure out the straps!
These are my new fancy shoes. I think they fit the "casual" criterion. I've never had wedges before. They feel OK. If I do get my toes done, these are a good candidate of shoes to wear.
What do you think?
I was looking at a different pair of shoes from the same company. I had picked up the only pair of 11s and then I saw these. I liked the colour better; I was afraid white would scuff especially if I was off the beaten path at all. The heels are low enough for walking but high enough to remind me I'm wearing heels.
The style was slightly different from my original choice.
When I tried these on, I realised they have no strap on the back. That was on my "must have" list. I didn't want shoes slapping at my feet all day, or falling off because I'm not used to them. Plus, I've heard worse things about flip-flops than high heels.
But I wore them for a bit and they seem fine.
Opinions, ladies! And if you haven't looked at the dresses and skirts from the other day, please do. And I hope to post some other skirts/tops before the weekend is over, so please come back around 4pm Eastern!
As I mentioned, I bought two pairs of shoes. My kids were out briefly yesterday, so I wore each pair, plus one I had in the house, for 10-20 minutes each.
It did take me a minute or five to figure out the straps!
These are my new fancy shoes. I think they fit the "casual" criterion. I've never had wedges before. They feel OK. If I do get my toes done, these are a good candidate of shoes to wear.
What do you think?
The style was slightly different from my original choice.
When I tried these on, I realised they have no strap on the back. That was on my "must have" list. I didn't want shoes slapping at my feet all day, or falling off because I'm not used to them. Plus, I've heard worse things about flip-flops than high heels.
But I wore them for a bit and they seem fine.
Opinions, ladies! And if you haven't looked at the dresses and skirts from the other day, please do. And I hope to post some other skirts/tops before the weekend is over, so please come back around 4pm Eastern!
Saturday, June 4, 2011
To Be Clear....
I have to travel in drab. I'm hoping a future trip to Arizona will be different. I'll be going every two or three months.
The clothes I'm looking for are for the weekend. My goal:
Friday after work: change to Meg, get a manicure and pedicure
Saturday: Meg goes sightseeing and/or shopping
Sunday: more of the same
Sunday night: fingernail polish goes away, but I'll keep my toes ready for another opportunity.
So please help me choose casual desert-friendly clothes. Shoes and more skirts and tops should be posted Sunday, maybe in two posts.
The clothes I'm looking for are for the weekend. My goal:
Friday after work: change to Meg, get a manicure and pedicure
Saturday: Meg goes sightseeing and/or shopping
Sunday: more of the same
Sunday night: fingernail polish goes away, but I'll keep my toes ready for another opportunity.
So please help me choose casual desert-friendly clothes. Shoes and more skirts and tops should be posted Sunday, maybe in two posts.
The Angels Wanna Wear My Red Shoes (and Shopping, Too)
There are few women in this office. One, K, favours blouses and skirts. I came by to ask her something she did not know. She offered to look it up; I said I'd ask someone else who probably knows. She accused me of not wanting her to answer my question. I agreed and said I love her shoes and just wanted to see them again. She was wearing red open-toed slingbacks.
She said "everyone should own a pair of red shoes. Women, men, children ~ everyone."
I thought: I like her already.
I picked my responses carefully, but said that I doubt they make shoes like that in my size. She said "you never know" and we went back-and-forth a bit. I told her about a BT guy in the UK who showed up for a team dinner wearing fire-engine red shoes (true story). She told me red is a "bright neutral" and you can wear red shoes with anything, according to the "new fashion rules."
We're going to have to talk fashion at some point. Or at several points.
I found an opening and told her I "did drag" for Halloween last year, but that I didn't wear red shoes. She asked if I was anyone specific and I told her. She asked if it was a political group and I told her it was in the midst of 200,000 in DC.
Then the conversation, alas, drifted to crowds and crowded events and such.
I'll be back.
Addendum: The above happened Wednesday. On Friday, I asked her a few questions about the course I'll be taking next week. Of the people in the office, she took it most recently. One of my questions was about dress code (casual). I said "I really wanted to know if red shoes were required." She said they were optional.
After work Friday, I headed back to the mall. My beautiful friend Amanda had suggested if I wore a dress "with straps" I could wear a t-shirt underneath. She also gave me her opinion of my dresses and skirts. I appreciate all of your help.
Anyway, I added "white t-shirt" to my list of things to look at at the mall.
Girl jeans (older ones are tearing and fading)
Girl polo (I could use one more)
casual dress(es)
casual top(s): I wanted solid colours, since most of my skirts were prints.
shoes: probably two pairs. Light shoes in colour and style. Strappy low- or mid-heels.
I picked up two tops, two jeans, two pairs of shoes. I also purchased a small scissor. I really need one for touching up brows and such. I tried on the jeans (JC Penney. I had to walk across the store for the men's fitting rooms).
I didn't get a t-shirt because I didn't see any strappy dresses I liked. I hope to go shopping at the main mall in Sierra Vista as soon as possible, to try to get my hair issues taken care of, and to look for local style clothing. I won't mind too much if I bring clothes but wear what I buy there instead.
I have some more skirts that are possibles. I think I've exhausted dresses I might wear there. Others are too dressy, or too heavy, or otherwise unsuitable.
I should have some alone time tomorrow ~ not too much time however. I will spend it wearing my new shoes and trying on combinations for your judgement. Please don't let me down!
She said "everyone should own a pair of red shoes. Women, men, children ~ everyone."
I thought: I like her already.
I picked my responses carefully, but said that I doubt they make shoes like that in my size. She said "you never know" and we went back-and-forth a bit. I told her about a BT guy in the UK who showed up for a team dinner wearing fire-engine red shoes (true story). She told me red is a "bright neutral" and you can wear red shoes with anything, according to the "new fashion rules."
We're going to have to talk fashion at some point. Or at several points.
I found an opening and told her I "did drag" for Halloween last year, but that I didn't wear red shoes. She asked if I was anyone specific and I told her. She asked if it was a political group and I told her it was in the midst of 200,000 in DC.
Then the conversation, alas, drifted to crowds and crowded events and such.
I'll be back.
Addendum: The above happened Wednesday. On Friday, I asked her a few questions about the course I'll be taking next week. Of the people in the office, she took it most recently. One of my questions was about dress code (casual). I said "I really wanted to know if red shoes were required." She said they were optional.
Shopping
After work Friday, I headed back to the mall. My beautiful friend Amanda had suggested if I wore a dress "with straps" I could wear a t-shirt underneath. She also gave me her opinion of my dresses and skirts. I appreciate all of your help.
Anyway, I added "white t-shirt" to my list of things to look at at the mall.
Girl jeans (older ones are tearing and fading)
Girl polo (I could use one more)
casual dress(es)
casual top(s): I wanted solid colours, since most of my skirts were prints.
shoes: probably two pairs. Light shoes in colour and style. Strappy low- or mid-heels.
I picked up two tops, two jeans, two pairs of shoes. I also purchased a small scissor. I really need one for touching up brows and such. I tried on the jeans (JC Penney. I had to walk across the store for the men's fitting rooms).
I didn't get a t-shirt because I didn't see any strappy dresses I liked. I hope to go shopping at the main mall in Sierra Vista as soon as possible, to try to get my hair issues taken care of, and to look for local style clothing. I won't mind too much if I bring clothes but wear what I buy there instead.
I have some more skirts that are possibles. I think I've exhausted dresses I might wear there. Others are too dressy, or too heavy, or otherwise unsuitable.
I should have some alone time tomorrow ~ not too much time however. I will spend it wearing my new shoes and trying on combinations for your judgement. Please don't let me down!
Friday, June 3, 2011
Schedule BUSTED
As I mentioned, it's best to get out of the house by 7:40 to avoid traffic. Yesterday, that didn't work. I had a few dresses I wanted to try and photograph. I had some longer skirts I wanted to try. I have some light, shorter skirts that I wanted to try as well.
To get the best idea how the dresses would fit, I needed to put on my bra, forms, and cinch. I also wanted to look further back in the closet and see if there were other possibles for Arizona.
I worked fast, but it was about 7:50 before I was done. Then I had to take off the undergarments, put everything away, get dressed in drab, brush teeth, make sure I didn't leave anything out, put the camera in the basement, get my computer and such for work, and get out the door.
I wasn't real late, but I didn't get to the knee-length-and-above skirts either.
There are several options that I'm posting here. My hair and makeup are still in the closet, so no head in any of these. I tried to get my feet for longer skirts. I didn't try on the white or blue from the other day, but they're still options.
The top in the skirt pictures is just the first thing I grabbed. I'm actually hoping to get back to the shops today to get a pair or two of summery shoes (I don't really have anything appropriate and comfy shoes are a must, or Meg will have a short time out), and a top or two. I'm thinking cap sleeves and not shaving as much as I planned. Or cap sleeves and I WILL shave, just as a dry run for next time.
Let me know what you think, in either comments or e-mail.
To get the best idea how the dresses would fit, I needed to put on my bra, forms, and cinch. I also wanted to look further back in the closet and see if there were other possibles for Arizona.
I worked fast, but it was about 7:50 before I was done. Then I had to take off the undergarments, put everything away, get dressed in drab, brush teeth, make sure I didn't leave anything out, put the camera in the basement, get my computer and such for work, and get out the door.
I wasn't real late, but I didn't get to the knee-length-and-above skirts either.
There are several options that I'm posting here. My hair and makeup are still in the closet, so no head in any of these. I tried to get my feet for longer skirts. I didn't try on the white or blue from the other day, but they're still options.
The top in the skirt pictures is just the first thing I grabbed. I'm actually hoping to get back to the shops today to get a pair or two of summery shoes (I don't really have anything appropriate and comfy shoes are a must, or Meg will have a short time out), and a top or two. I'm thinking cap sleeves and not shaving as much as I planned. Or cap sleeves and I WILL shave, just as a dry run for next time.
Let me know what you think, in either comments or e-mail.
Dresses
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| b&w mini |
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| Ab&w sheath |
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| long pepper |
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| short print |
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| salmon mini |
skirts
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| black maxi |
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| light blue maxi |
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| flame maxi |
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| black flower print |
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| purple flower print |
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