Friday, January 17, 2014

I Concur

Yesterday, Stana's Femulate blog entry was entitled Things To Come

She wrote about her belief that femulating in public will become more prevalent.  If you haven't read it, take a minute.  I'll wait.

I agree 100% with her first reason, that bloggers like us who have safe, public, frequent forays out are encouraging others to do the same.  I'm no trailblazer.  I started this blog because I thought I was: I wanted to chronicle my femme flight from Dulles, VA to Topeka, Kansas.  I learned that I'm far from the first, but still a rare bird (ha!).  I do have fun, and if I knew what I know now, I would have gone out a long time ago.  I am always thrilled when I hear from someone who said "you encouraged me to walk out that door, high heels clacking on the concrete."

I have a little problem with reason number two: Each year I go to the Transgender Day of
another femulating boy from Youtube
Remembrance and hear about the girls who didn't have fun on their last day femulating.  There's still a lot of hate out there, but I think if you're dressed your chance of being hurt through haters is less than the chance of having car problems.  (Bad: I had a flat while en femme.  Worse: it was one of my first times out.  Good: a guy changed my tire and treated me as I appeared.  That made it a great day.)

For still another reason, well, I guess Stana hangs out with a different crowd than I do.  I don't see men in tights, jewelry, makeup or carrying handbags....  Self excepted.  I can't wait until these things become more commonplace.  Because when they are, I can "up the ante."  Stana has given me an idea thought.... leggings.  Hmmm....

But I definitely concur with her conclusion.  Men are more relaxed about femulating.  When I was young, most guys would rather die than play dress-up.  (Of course, when I was young, it was the guys who wore the powdered wigs and frilly shirts. :) )  Now search for crossdress or crossdress brother or crossdress husband on youtube and there are guys getting pretty by the dozen.

So my question to myself is, how would my crossdressing experience be different if I were college age today?


  1. It is a simple but sometimes slow developing process of acclimation. The more that civilians get exposed to T people the more they will come to realize that we are part of the landscape.
    Keep on keeping on and society will become inured to having us as members and participants.

  2. It's much more common among younger people than it was in our day, but we don't see them because we don't do the things they do. A lot of young people are into cosplay, and use that as a crossdressing outlet. Young people can transition now, much more than people our age could. Clubkids wear makeup, wild hair styles, and androgynous to transgender clothing. You went to a renfair, which seems to be a fairly popular crossdressing outlet. They're out there, but they're not where we're going, just like they're not hanging out with their parents and grandparents.

    By the way, you should try some leggings. Leggings and tunics and sweaters are great this time of year. It'd cover those burns, too. Great with boots.


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