Wednesday, July 13, 2011

I Like You

You're anonymous.  I'm not (not really).  So please answer the anonymous poll and I'll post my answer in a few days.

If you want to be disanonymous (huh?), post a comment under your account as well.  No home phone numbers!

I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to phrase the poll choices, and I know I still have it wrong.  If I have it way wrong, post a comment or drop me an e-mail.  This is a learning experience for me.

I'm calling this gender orientation.  I did a quick search ~ others have used the term, but used it interchangeably with sexual orientation.  Sorry.  That's not right.  They use different adjectives for a reason.  I'm commandeering the term.

I want to know if we (and by 'we' I mean 'us') change who we're attracted to based on our appearance.  I know I've read e-mails from readers and posts on other sites from people who have answered this question, but I'd like to investigate it in an organised manner.  I know this poll is far from scientific, but it's the only tool I have at the moment.  I will accept grant money. :)

I apologise for having so many choices.  I really think there are too few choices, but I had to avoid nuances to keep it reasonable.

For the poll:

Ignore current relationships.

If you've transitioned, think back to when your body was of a type that you're not now.

If you're not trans at all, you can still play.  Pick whatever's closest.

By 'trans' I mean transgendered.  You can choose what you want that to mean.

If I get a decent pool size, I have some additional questions.  I'm trying to try to get a better feel for our community.

If I get fifty comments saying (for example) "Always girls.  But there's one guy at work who makes me shiver and I'd...." I'll have a different poll coming up.


  1. I just voted...the first one. I'm always with a girl. In male mode, I am seriously hetero; in female mode, I'm a lesbian. In fact, as you know from reading my blog, I consider myself a "male lesbian".

  2. --I like what you are doing here, and I'm very curious where this is leading. Might have been simpler to have two separate polls, though. One, if I'm a boy. And one, if I'm a girl.

    Not entirely comfortable with the phrasing of your second to last option. It's the only option that doesn't deal with absolutes, but some of us lean more one way than the other in one or both roles. I don't think that makes me very flexible, but I do consider it pretty damn important.

  3. I'm always with a girl.

    Although I think it would be amazing to be out in public and get admiring looks from a man (Stana recently had a post ( that included this experience), I'm not attracted to men.

  4. The first two categories, of course, correspond to "straight" and "gay."

    Past there.... it gets tricky.

  5. Are you sure Linda? Read Wednesday's post and maybe think again.


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