Therapy the Fourteenth

The couples therapy was difficult.  There's a scene in High Anxiety (if you haven't seen it, see it!) where someone is being kept in the violent ward of a psychiatric hospital, not because he's sick but because the criminal owners want to drain his bank account.  In this scene Harvey Korman (the evil psychiatrist) is with Mel Brooks (the new head, here to clean it up) as he interviews the patient.  The patient seems sane and normal to Mel, but every time he'd have his back turned Harvey did something to make the patient seem crazy.

I'm starting to feel that way in couples.  We sit down as a family and things seem OK, even pleasant.  Then it's just the two of us, or the two of us and the therapist, and everything's not OK.

It's difficult, because I want to maintain contact but she makes it very hard.  As I mentioned yesterday, We spent some "us" time together after therapy, but I made sure that it was on a non-relationship level.  We have always at least spoken on the phone every day, and we agreed to continue to do that, but as a "catch up" and "this is interesting" kind of level.  I will delve into what's going on inside my mind only when it's positive.

I still expect positive.  My individual therapy is today.  After that, I will visit with my son while my wife is working and I will vanish before she comes home.

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