Monday, November 24, 2014

Transgender Day of Remembrance, Pre-Service

I'm jumping around a bit right now.  I have a few days queued up about my visit to the Renaissance Faire, the Cardmodel Convention, and some miscellaneous events.  I'll get there.  Honest.

20 November was both the Transgender Day of Remembrance and somewhat cold.  I wore the same
dress I wore few weeks ago, when I met Sharon for dinner.  It's cute, comfortable, and warm.

The service began at 7:30, which is an inconvenient time for Meg.  It means I either have to eat early and spend my normal dinner hour dressing or dress early and prepare food and eat dressed (and carefully).  So... we went for the third option and dressed earlyish and ate out.

The Northern Virginia TDoR was in Oakton, west of where I live.  It's not far ~ maybe a dozen miles ~ but it's in the direction of People Heading Home.  There are multiple ways west, and all share the virtue of being clogged at that time.  Even though I expected it to be a mess, I opted for the road with the fewest lights.  I was not disappointed.  It was indeed a mess.

We stopped at a Chinese restaurant about a mile from the event and had a nice dinner coupled with an interesting observation.

We were treated as any other women out to eat.  I've come to expect that and, again, I was not disappointed.  But when the waiter first came over he asked if we wanted something to drink and if we wanted to be on one cheque or two.

Hmmm....  I've been out in male mode with women (and t-girls) many times and have never been asked if we wanted separate cheques.  The only reason he would have to ask is, often two women (or two guys) sit down together but want to pay separately.

That's maybe better than being "ma'am'd!"

Dinner was fine although a bit rushed; traffic put us a bit behind schedule but we got to the church in plenty of time.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Sunday Funnies: From the "Used to Be Funny" File

Garfield, as I have mentioned before, used to be pretty funny.  I pulled a bunch of cartoons out going back to when the strip first came out (1978!  36+ years ago!)

Currently the best Garfield experience is on Garfield Minus Garfield.  The final cartoon is the latest on that site.  The second best is Garfield As Garfield, where Garfield the cat is replaced by Garfield the president.  I don't think it's been updated in a while though.

He looked different in 1978

But by 1985....

Garfield Minus Garfield

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Not T But Appealing

Sandra Bell-Lundy's "Between Friends" has never had any t-content.  Perhaps they get close by showing male characters uncomfortable in women's environments but that's about it.

But she does have a very female/feminine aura to her strip and I enjoy that.  I hope you all do too.  Please click to enlarge, or zoom in.

Not in my vocabulary either. 

I'd spoil my little girl, if I had one!

Right.  All the stuff I missed wearing. :(

Or the other way around


Friday, November 21, 2014

Transgender Day of Remembrance

Last night was the 2014 TDoR.  I came home from work, ate, changed, and was out late and if you're reading this I didn't have time to produce a post. 

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Halloween, Second Night

Mandy was still in town.  We didn't get together, which, from reading her blog, turned out to be a great thing for her .

My good friend Sharon was available and not really loving her options for dress-up, which was a great thing for me, because we all went out to dinner together, dressed but not in costume.  Sharon, like many of us, has to work around her family in order to get a day out.  I've met her wife; she is very nice, and good about herding the kids so Sharon can see daylight regularly.
Meg & Sharon on the way out

At the restaurant, about a third of the patrons and all of the staff were in costume.

I didn't worry much about being read, although next year I think I'll wear perhaps my Renaissance dress and be out as a "woman in a costume" instead of being out as a woman.

We spoke to the waitress (who wore a sheet and was a ghost at first but later she gave up the ghost and she had an "Alice in Wonderland" dress underneath.  I asked her what was under that and she said "that's it.  It's just my birthday suit" and I said "that's what I have on under this!"

So I was still in my normal-kidding mode, even as Meg, although I sometimes worry that banter might come off as flirting which might confuse the other party.  Not that there's anything wrong with that.

At the end of the evening, I was seeking out the waitress but didn't find her.  I wanted to tell her that it was so uplifting to see all of the people in costume that I was going to wear one next year.  Just to see what she says, of course.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Simple Pleasure: Zip Me Up, Please

(Please consider attending a Transgender Day of Remembrance event tomorrow night.)

Marian made a comment about preferring bras with a "back closure."  I do too.  Other girls I've spoken to do as well.  We also like back or side zips on dresses.

I've been trying to figure out why.  The only thought I have is, it's more feminine.  Guy clothes doesn't fasten on the back or side.

But I'm wondering if there's more to it than that.  Any ideas, readers?

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Halloween at the Apartment

Mandy was in town but I wanted to be home for any little goblins that might show up.  Since I was able to get out of work early, Meg was able to answer the door.

I changed into "Minimal Meg," as I described yesterday.  I've been wanting to do this, to see if I'm passable with minimal makeup.  Well, at least as passable as usual.

I did my close shave.  I considered only lipstick and gloss over my toner and moisturiser but instead went with powder and blush as well.  I also added mascara because, well, I like mascara.  But I skipped my cover and primer and foundation, and my other eye makeup.  I should have done something about my brows, but they were covered by my bangs and I wasn't planning on going anywhere (at that time; I had hopes of getting out later).

I put on a red Renaissance dress, black tights, black open heels, and my new bodice.  It wasn't easy to
16th century (minimal) Meg
put it on by myself, but I think I did a credible job.  It does crush "the ladies," as the saleswoman called them (that story is in the queue), so I changed to more solid breastforms instead of the liquid-filled bags I normally used.  I was afraid the pressure would ruin them.

I added earrings that looked antiquish, and a bead necklace and bracelet along with a couple of rings.  And my hair flowery thing.

Charity was expecting nail polish and kids were NOT appearing so I went downstairs to get the mail and see if a package arrived.  That's when I made a mistake I'm still kicking myself over.

I know a lot of people join in on a private conversation unbidden, but I always found that kind of rude so I do it sparingly, or veryconsciously.

One of the women who works in the office was standing by the mailboxes and talking to a male tenant when I came down.  I heard him say "it's Halloween" and she said "I have the most awesome costume.  I'm going as myself."

I ignored them.  I could have responded to the first statement "really?  I'll have to put on a costume."  Better would have been to respond to the second statement with "yeah, I'm just going to be myself for Halloween."

Funny, unexpected, and true on several levels.  It might even have started a conversation about the outfit.

But I didn't say anything.  I checked my mailbox (no mail yet so I had to go down later) and went back upstairs.

I expected to go into the office and ask for my package to see if the woman in there asks me which apartment I'm in.  I would have said something along the lines of "oh, come on.  You know by now" but there was no slip in the mailbox.

I missed opportunities but I'm sure Thalia had a reason.