Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Or Not Back to School

The principal for the Sunday school suggested I not sit in on the class, citing the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle (although not in so many words)...  You know, the one about observing something changes it.  I had considered that, and I agree.  But I wrote back and said I'd like to meet with the teacher right after class because I'm interested in my son's reaction.

At 14, mine would have been threefold:
* turn bright read
* crawl under my desk
* die

But it's a different world, and my boy is a different person.  I don't want to make a big deal out of what might just be another boring Sunday school to him.  I don't want to make a big deal about any t-feelings he might have about himself, and I don't want to put myself in a position where I'm divulging myself to an unreceptive son.

I requested to meet with the teacher after the class, and with the principal during the class, so she can go over the materials with me.

This is very unexpected, and I'm definitely treating it as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.  I won't let it escape.


  1. It is probably better that you do not attend... the presence of an adult can alter the chemistry ~ especially as it may impact your son. It would be interesting if the class were videotaped but even the presence of an invisible eye can create different reactions in people.
    I look forward to your reports back after the session.

  2. If you didn't do as much as you can to find out what is happening and the effect it will have, how could you live with yourself? So of course you must be involved somehow.

    This puts you in a difficult place, with potentially many turns to come, and answers to give as honestly as you can without hurting you or your son.

    I know there will be a lot of us interested in your report next Monday. Hope it goes well.

  3. Do you expect that your taking so much interest in this particular subject won't cause the teacher and principal to become aware of how the subject relates to you, or this what you are aiming to achieve?

    Perhaps you need to level with the principal and explain why you are interested.

  4. Alice, I don't plan to volunteer anything, but if asked, well, no stories.

    I tell myself I have no problem with that, but in reality there's still a bit of "I care" in there. Planning helps.


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