tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post5504979909184463639..comments2023-09-24T16:20:50.493-04:00Comments on Call Me Meg: Therapy the SecondCallMeMeghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14184763491635476887noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-14725053000867557062012-03-18T11:44:20.287-04:002012-03-18T11:44:20.287-04:00Meg- Thanks for writing about all this. I just wan...Meg- Thanks for writing about all this. I just want to wish you the best! <br />SaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-3075545432792719602012-03-17T08:08:32.038-04:002012-03-17T08:08:32.038-04:00I feel for what you're going through and I wis...I feel for what you're going through and I wish the best for both you and your wife. I think some of the comments, re: the therapist's knowledge of trans issues are important. The minute after my first session,my therapist-who's not a gender specialist-began looking for someone she could refer me to who was. In the meantime she began to do her homework. I think that's the mark of someone who's both professional and interested in achieving positive results. I hope for the best outcome for you and your family. hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-51078633536665270932012-03-16T09:56:50.236-04:002012-03-16T09:56:50.236-04:00Oh Meg, Be brave. Would it be possible for you to ...Oh Meg, Be brave. Would it be possible for you to find your own therapist to talk to outside of this current situation? That way you can choose someone who has some experience with gender issues and could help you find the clarity you need.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13501248299149011600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-4029541213006974842012-03-16T00:57:25.868-04:002012-03-16T00:57:25.868-04:00If your wife went into therapy with an agenda, the...If your wife went into therapy with an agenda, then I'm afraid the therapy may be more difficult than you really know. Good therapy shouldn't be an affirmation of your feelings unless it is your 'truth". Difficult to get there with an "agenda"<br /><br />I'm glad that your wife is in therapy. But I'm concerned that the therapy may not fully resolve her issues. I suspect her real issue is her sexual orientation identity AND her perceived embarrassment that she married "one of those". That is her issue to work through though. From what you've described, you've been more than supportive and tolerant of her needs. <br /><br />I think your children should be told. They have a right to know. How much and when and under what circumstances should be discussed with the therapist and your wife should be told that it will happen. She shouldn't be able to veto it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-67248724639213048312012-03-15T23:45:17.352-04:002012-03-15T23:45:17.352-04:00My knowledge of therapists and psych therapy is &#...My knowledge of therapists and psych therapy is 'bupkus' but if this woman is a true professional then she owes it to you and your wife to acquire an expertise about TG issues before she goes any further.<br />Even if she is giving your wife a professional discount I think that she should not take a dime unless she goes to the effort to acquire knowledge about TG issues. She knows that you are seeing her for couples therapy in part because of your TG issues. The fact that you know 100 times the amount of info about the subject than she does is just not right.<br />I can understand your wife excluding TG issues from her professional world. It strikes too close to home and it seems like she is comfortable playing ostrich with the subject matter.<br />Good luck<br /><br />PatPat Scaleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00148601231866277374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-40964051103411881542012-03-15T14:24:36.053-04:002012-03-15T14:24:36.053-04:00As to your wife's "agenda"...is it p...As to your wife's "agenda"...is it possible--being a therapist herself and therefore a part of that community--that she deliberately chose a therapist she knew would be less than sympathetic and knowledgeable about crossdessing? That she is looking for someone to back her up and discourage you?Pretty Sissy Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14649369360851086155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-89062872916053851362012-03-15T12:15:12.104-04:002012-03-15T12:15:12.104-04:00Meg, My wife never wanted me to tell anybody we kn...Meg, My wife never wanted me to tell anybody we knew - I never did -she never did. Only members of TG community know Diane. I wish you had a therapist who knows more about TG issues. I wish your wife would take the time to learn. I am now worried about her agenda. We have never gone to a therapist. <br />Hugs <br />DianeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-85339543740494147452012-03-15T10:00:00.000-04:002012-03-15T10:00:00.000-04:00Meg, thanks for writing about your experience with...Meg, thanks for writing about your experience with your therapist. She doesn't sound very knowledgeable about transgender issues. That's not necessarily a deal breaker if she's open and willing to listen, but it is a bit of a red flag. <br /><br />So many of the issues you describe mirror the difficulties my wife and I have. About 25 years ago, we saw a therapist for several issues. The therapist was very sympathetic of my need to crossdress, perhaps too sympathetic for my wife's taste. We really didn't make much progress.<br /><br />My wife and I have briefly discussed going to therapy again, but I'm a little gun shy. Well, more than a little. Couples therapy can be very difficult and can bring up a range of feelings that, in the short term, are easier to leave alone. In the long run, it's better to figure out what's going on and deal with it but it can make day to day life difficult while the process is going on.<br /><br />I wish you and your wife the best and hope that your therapist is wise, understanding, a good listener and willing to learn.<br /><br />Best.<br /><br />LindaLinda Marie Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09235079239322819082noreply@blogger.com