tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post441053534000903874..comments2023-09-24T16:20:50.493-04:00Comments on Call Me Meg: My Second Soiree, Part IICallMeMeghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14184763491635476887noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-40335472648906031942013-03-07T21:32:07.071-05:002013-03-07T21:32:07.071-05:00Meg -
If you're around when I visit DC, I'...Meg -<br /><br />If you're around when I visit DC, I'll visit both you and Charity - and you'll be able to say you've had a visitor from out of town!<br /><br />You comment that most people are conditioned to treat us as ladies. I've found this to be true in my travels as well. And this means most people will not ask us about being trans when we go about our daily business. The other day, I saw someone on my commuter train who I thought was trans, but who had a perfect presentation and excellent voice. It was a time I wish I could have broken the politeness barrier I subscribe to, just to have a friendly conversation and to compare notes. Alas, that's the price we pay for being treated the way we want.<br /><br />You commented on the lack of competition in your soiree. This is much like a natal woman's soiree - there is rarely the one upmanship that is found in masculine communication. Instead, feminine conversation establishes rapport and helps further knit together a social network that benefits women.<br /><br />Do GG's compete? They sure do! But they compete differently than Males, and in ways most men do not notice. We may be privileged enough to see life from both sides, and to have a better understanding on what it is to be human.<br /><br />MMarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18346866501735405647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-25705195601266493632013-03-07T18:08:37.311-05:002013-03-07T18:08:37.311-05:00I rejoice that my local group is a small informal ...I rejoice that my local group is a small informal gathering at a local Pub. This gives us all the chance to share, and spend time together in a social setting.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12577631984995202146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-53993683717770961852013-03-07T12:25:55.382-05:002013-03-07T12:25:55.382-05:00There is a need in our community for casual gather...There is a need in our community for casual gatherings. I have been to a few support meetings and they tend to be nice but somewhat formulaic. I have also been to some big party style T events. I share your problem of being able to follow conversations in large settings. It is compounded when the music volume surpasses that of the NYC subway system. I hope that the DC TL Soiree finds a way to continue. <br /><br />I also share your observation that there is a different sense of calm acceptance when we are in a group of TG people and non-TGs who understand that we are all different. I sense that pure civilians, even GLB civilians simply do not grasp the diversity that exists in the TG range. There is a tendency to want to lump all 'men in dresses' into one group. There are as many different ways to be TG as there are TG people. We understand that "One size fits all" just does not apply. For civilians, however, it may be easier for them to put us all into one catagory.<br /><br />Likewise, at least in my experience, there is a general acceptance of aother TGs. I have not had too much exposure to what some writers have described as "I am more T than you". I will almost always pass a nice comment to another dresser about her clothes or shoes or whatever. It seems natural to be able to find at least one genuine sounding compliment you can make. At the same time it rarely happens that someone does not pass a nice comment about my looks or attire. I am always nicely surprised when that happens.<br /><br />There tends to be a refreshing lack of competitiveness among us. GGs may feel a need to compete with other GGs. Most of us are just plain happy to be out and about. We know that we may not be beautiful in many ways but we are happy to achieve whatever level of beauty we can reach.<br /><br />You do raise good points for discussion.<br /><br />Patscalesmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405121500560615820noreply@blogger.com