tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post8013427940198625667..comments2023-09-24T16:20:50.493-04:00Comments on Call Me Meg: Therapies Are Made of ThisCallMeMeghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14184763491635476887noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-60641695694838980522012-08-23T00:30:55.900-04:002012-08-23T00:30:55.900-04:00Meg -
Looking at apartments. That's the kind...Meg -<br /><br />Looking at apartments. That's the kind of step which can trigger a set of falling dominoes. And who knows where that will lead?<br /><br />With that being said, it seems as if your wife has forced you into your decision. Like me, you are exploring a side of your personality, your core being, which can no longer be suppressed. And your wife is afraid. She is afraid of what this means for you, and she is afraid for what it means for her. This is sad.... But we live in a culture where gender identity and presentation are strongly attached to who we are as individuals.<br /><br />I hope for you that there is still room in your relationship to maneuver and to repair the cracks in the relationship. There are others on the web who have gone through much more - and are still in healthy relationships. But it took a lot of soul searching - something which is hard for us even when living vanilla life styles.<br /><br />Good luck.....<br /><br />MAMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-87107842246998445442012-08-22T09:44:58.730-04:002012-08-22T09:44:58.730-04:00Meg,
It just does not seem like a happy situation....Meg,<br />It just does not seem like a happy situation. You are not happy and clearly your wife is not happy. <br /><br />It seems that she is looking to affix all blame for her being unhappy on you. That may work in some situations but with you I do not see it as working for the simple fact that at your core you are inherently a nice person...a good soul. You are struggling to preserve some sembelance of a happy family. It may work ~ perhaps not.<br /><br />You find yourself repeatedly asking her what she means with some of her statements. My guess is that she has no idea what she means or what it may be that she wants, and lacking any clear vision of the future she simply wants to strike out to hurt you since she seems to be blaming you for being the source of her pain.<br /><br />I am no shrink but it seems that being able to talk about issues that concern you to people you trust is important. I think it was good that you were able to discuss at least some mattters with your friends but I suspect that it is even better for you to have this blog forum where there is a community of people who have similar issues and who like you simply for being the good honest person that you are.<br /><br />Good luck.<br />Peace<br />Patscalesmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405121500560615820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3383236105308499589.post-31873165648766036752012-08-22T07:26:29.008-04:002012-08-22T07:26:29.008-04:00I just wanted to comment on "She figured out ...I just wanted to comment on "She figured out that 'imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" and I'm a better-looking girl than she is " My wife has always had extremely low self esteem no matter what I do to build her up (for 41 years today). My wanting to be female has nothing to do with being better than her. That's only her low self-esteem talking. No way could I ever be a better female than her. I'm not asking for a competition. I'm asking for a sister, a friend who will stick by me and help me, guide me thru this morass. I guess it's the highly unusual woman who will embrace the fact that her man wants to be like her rather than recoil with revulsion and become defensive. My heart goes out to you, Meg. AllisonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com